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Self-Limiting Behaviors Successful People Avoid




Putting off investing in themselves: I see this behavior over and over in those who feel thwarted and unsuccessful – they are incredibly reluctant to invest time, money and energy in themselves and their own growth. They are comfortable only when putting other people’s needs ahead of their own. They’ll make any excuse for why now is NOT the time to invest in themselves or commit to change. They feel guilt, shame and anxiety over claiming “I’m worth this.”  Successful people don’t wait – they spend money, time and effort on their own growth because they know without doubt it will pay off – for themselves and everyone around them.

Doubting themselves and their instincts: Those who doubt themselves, lack trust in their own gut or instincts, or second-guess themselves continually find themselves far from where they want to be. Successful individuals believe in themselves without fail. Sure, they acknowledge they have “power gaps” or blind spots, and areas that need deep development. But they forgive themselves for what they don’t know and the mistakes they’ve made, and accept themselves. They keep going with hope and optimism, knowing that the lessons from these missteps will serve them well in the future.

Resisting change: Successful people don’t break themselves against what is or drown in the changing tides. They go with the flow. They embrace new trends or developments that align with their hearts, minds and spirits, and embrace them. They are flexible, fluid and nimble. They react to what’s in front of them, and improvise deftly. Those who are unsuccessful bemoan what is appearing before them, and stay stuck in the past or in what they “expected,” complaining about how life is not what it should be and why what is feels so wrong. Searching for handouts and easy answers: I can often tell from the first contact I have with someone if they’ll be likely to succeed in their new ventures or careers, or not. How? By the nature of their expectations, and how they set out to fulfill them.  Here’s an example - if a complete stranger reaches out to me expecting free help without considering what she may offer in return, it’s a bad sign. Let’s say she asks something like this: “I’m launching my new business and wondered if you can give me some advice. I can’t pay you, but I hope you can help me anyway.”
From this one email, I know she’s not ready to make it happen in her own business. Why? Because successful people (and those destined to be) wouldn’t consider asking for help in this way. 
Instead, they: 1) understand that they have something important and valuable to offer in any situation, 2) are willing and happy to share something helpful in return for what they want, and 3) if they can't return the favor, they offer to pay it forward in meaningful ways to other individuals who are in need in the future. In short, they treat others exactly as they would hope to be treated.
Successful people are respectful, resourceful, curious, competent, tenacious, and they figure out how to get the help they need without asking for handouts. That doesn’t mean they don’t seek assistance when and where they need it , or make use of the many free resources available to them. It means that they don’t expect something for nothing. They recognize their own value. They treat others equitably and fairly and know they deserve the same. 
They also know that their success is directly proportionate to the effort they put in.Most of allthey understand there are no short cuts or easy answers on the road to a successful, rewarding life, and they embrace their growth journey as an adventure to be relished.
Resisting change:Successful people don’t break themselves against what is or drown in the changing tides. They go with the flow. They embrace new trends or developments that align with their hearts, minds and spirits, and embrace them. They are flexible, fluid and nimble. They react to what’s in front of them, and improvise deftly. Those who are unsuccessful bemoan what is appearing before them, and stay stuck in the past or in what they “expected,” complaining about how life is not what it should be and why what is feels so wrong.
Honoring other people’s priorities over their own: Success people know what matters most to them-their priorities, values, concerns, and their mission and purpose. They don’t float aimlessly on a sea of possibility – they are masters of their own ship and know where they want to head, and make bold moves in the direction of their dreams. 
To do this, they are very clear about their top priorities in life and work, and won’t be waylaid by the priorities and values of others. In short, they have very well-defined boundaries, and know where they end and others begin. They say “no” to endeavors and behaviors (and thinking) that will push them off track. They know what they want to create and the legacy they want to leave behind in this lifetime, and honor that each day.
That doesn't mean that they're selfish and think only of themselves. It means they know specifically how they want to use their talents and passions in the world and commit to living out their visions (and very often, these visions are about being of service to others).
Self-Limiting Behaviors Successful People Avoid Self-Limiting Behaviors Successful People Avoid Reviewed by commentsafrica on January 05, 2018 Rating: 5

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